"A Birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart." ~Skye Hardwick, founder of "Life Mothers"
Making the decision to place your child for adoption is definitely not an easy choice. To differentiate between adoption and abortion, let's consider the facts. Abortion costs at least $300 at most clinics in addition to ultrasound cost, post-abortive medication, costs from possible health complications, and possible post-abortive therapy. For a woman who is farther along in her pregnancy, the cost of abortion could easily be over $1,000. By contrast, a mother who releases her child for adoption can often have the medical expenses paid for by the adoptive parents.
Consider these other differences between abortion and adoption as listed on the American Adoptions website.*
|Your pregnancy ends with giving life
||Your pregnancy ends with death
|You can feel good and positive about your choice
||You may feel guilt and shame about your choice
|You will remember giving birth
||You will remember taking a life
|You will have plenty of time to plan you and your baby's future
||Abortion is final; you can't go back on your decision
|You can hold, name, and love your baby
||You will never know or treasure your baby
|You can have continued contact with your baby
||You will miss the opportunity to see your child develop
*Taken from American Adoptions website. Retrieved August 12, 2010, from http://www.americanadoptions.com/pregnant/adoption_abortion_parenting.
Some people may try to make you feel guilty for considering adoption. Remember, adoption is all about what is best for your child. By choosing to place your child with adoptive parents, your baby will have a family who are ready for a baby, can afford a baby, want a baby, and can provide a good home environment for the baby. Choosing adoption is a great gift that a birthmother can give to her child.